What is holding you back?
Let’s get real for a minute.
What are you goals? Why haven’t you reached them? What is holding you back?
Here’s my list:
My 4 year old is home almost 24/7. He. Is. SO. NEEDY.
Single momma
Too many jobs, not enough time. Choose between: clean house, happy kid, work done, social needs met, eating regular meals, client or job #1-94899, education, content, health & wellness, fitness, leisure time/self care, travel to visit family... Maybe someday I could even finish moving into my house! (It’s been 4 months)
Slow growth - I do not come from money. I did not start with capital. Bootstrapping takes time!
Bad timing. Always something. Sit down to focus, and family member has a crisis.
Are these struggles, or excuses?
They’re both. Yes, I legitimately struggle as a single parent. I have legitimately struggled to build a business from nothing. Does that truly affect my ability to smash my goals out of the park?
NOPE.
All of these problems have solutions. They are not legitimate excuses.
We have to identify what the REAL problems are to draft REAL solutions.
Ok, I can’t just up and change the single momma status. But is that really the problem? Nope. Finding a hubby isn’t going to resolve these issues.
((And I’m sure you married mommas would argue that it would simply add more problems to the pile!))
It’s the lack of time to focus on my goals, right? So let’s take a look at my time. Can I get a sitter? Sure! If I can’t find one outside of my home, or can’t afford one, or whatever XYZ reason that doesn’t work - can I ask for help? YES.
Oh good lord, don’t make me ask for help!! <— Ahh, there it is. There’s the actual problem. I don’t want to ask for help.
Solution? JUST DO IT. Or as I did today - ask for help on how to ask for help. Yes, I did that.
Well - that jumping hurdle almost resolves my entire list.
Bad timing? Stop. Make time. I can just drink my own Kool-Aid there.
The “crisis” I dealt with earlier was absolutely NOT a crisis that needed handling right away, nor was it my responsibility to deal with in the first place.
Sit down. Breathe. Focus. Focus on the ACTIONS that will bring you closer to your goals.
Will things come up that do require YOUR immediate attention? Sure! But realistically - how often does that happen? Is the house on fire? Does your kid need to go to the hospital? No?
Then block your damn time and stick to it!
(That’s a note to self - but if you need a kick in the ass too, let me know!)
